I have decided Facebook is the social equivalent to my parents' front porch when I was little. My reasons:
- both are used at your convenience to pass leisure time pleasantly
- a front porch is public to your neighbors, FB is public to friends.
- when you are on the front porch, you can go back in when you get uncomfortable. On FB you can choose exactly how you present yourself, who sees the information, and even block people from whom you want privacy.
- in both settings you get a general idea of what is going on with acquaintances but it is in rather a hit-or-miss fashion and requires no planning or special effort on your part.
- you can wave or smile from your porch, or hit the like button on FB
- you can talk if it suits you by waving someone up to your porch or patting the swing, or by leaving comments.
- gossip is easy in either setting.
- it is important to remember that although FB asks us to call many people we would just smile to if on our porch "friend" they are more of casual acquaintances.
most porches are friendly and relatively quiet places; but every neighborhood has someone who has ball games going too loud on his radio for children across the street to sleep, and occasionally loud fights start on the porch. At least there they tend to move inside, while on FB they tend to go on and on in comments. I prefer to save strong opinions for my blog, which to me, is more like my living room. When you enter my living room, I think you expect to be on my turf. Don't be surprised if I am opinionated here. :)
This week we went to DC for the March for Life. It is my first time going and I'm glad to have been there.
There was a huge crowd, maybe half a million. How amazing would it be if the crowd matched the number of babies aborted in America since the decision, currently around 57 million? Inconceivable.
I remember when the Supreme Court passed down the decision. I never thought it could stand, not in America. Boy, was I wrong. I would never have believed this march would still be going on so many years later. I think most people would never have believed abortion would be so common.
But my main reaction was to the women carrying the "I Regret My Abortion" posters. Four of our children came to us by adoption. I saw those signs and was just so glad that my children's birth moms were not carrying one, at least not for my child. And I thought of all the families that did not get to know and love someone as wonderful as my children, whether as their birth family, foster, or adoptive family. So incredibly much loss, and we have done it to ourselves.
